Planning Your Self Care

Feel like your life revolves around everyone else and all you do is work, clean and tend to the needs of others? It’s time to schedule in some self care.

We all know how important self care is and that we should do more of it, but there never seems to be enough time in the day. Our ‘to do’ list never bloody ends and when we finally collapse into bed at night we lay there wondering when we’re going to get a break.

This is an all too familiar situation a lot of us find ourselves in and the consequences show up as irritability, impatience, exhaustion and overwhelm. We lash out at the ones we love and then feel like we’re the shittiest person in the world. 

Here’s the bad news; everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.

Here’s the good news; you get to CHOOSE what you do with yours.

Taking time for self care BEFORE you hit the wall will have you feeling more energised, more motivated, more organised and so much happier. Here’s how to schedule it into your life:

1. Make a list of things you enjoy doing or want to try

Bubble baths and scented candles aren’t for everyone so make a list of all the things you love to do or want to try. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to try yoga or pole dancing. Do you love sitting outside in the sun with a hot bevvy or cool drink?

Whatever you put on your list is perfect, don’t overthink it and don’t talk yourself out of anything. Make sure your list contains activities that take different amounts of time; include things you can do when you have a spare 5 mins, a blessed half hour of peace, a couple of uninterrupted hours, an entire day or whole weekend.

2. Schedule it in

Grab your diary/planner/Bestie Weekly Routine Notepad 😉 and start slotting activities into each day of the week (yes EVERY DAY). The things that only take a few minutes can be scattered throughout your day or stacked on top of your daily chores (think listening to a podcast on the drive to work or listening to your favourite tunes while you cook dinner – I love a good kitchen dance party!)

Don’t ignore the things that take longer, require more planning or cost more money. Schedule these in too so you have something to look forward to and are excited about.

3. Make it a habit

Self care, just like brushing your teeth needs to become a habit (a non-negotiable) in order for you to feel the long term benefits. These little acts of self love need to become something you do without consciously thinking about it (it’s just what you do).

A great way to kick start these new self care habits is to track them with a simple check list. They say it takes 21 days to create a new habit and 90 days to make it a permanent part of your lifestyle. So find yourself a blank habit tracker (Pinterest is a great source of inspiration) and get tracking.

4. Sharing is caring

Sometimes the ones who love us the most are also the ones that hold us back. They don’t mean to sabotage our plans but if you’re trying to create new self care habits and set boundaries around your time (so you have more of it for YOU) demanding friends and family can make it all feel like hard work.

Share your plans with everyone! Let them know what you want to do, why it’s important to you and how they can support you. When you’re organised, in control and happy everyone around you will get the best version of you; which is what your loved ones deserve.

 

Scheduling self care into your daily routine can feel really uncomfortable at first. If you’ve created a habit of always coming last you can experience feelings of guilt, selfishness and unworthiness. When you become aware of these feelings just remind yourself that you are worth it, you need it and you will be a better person for it.

Keep experimenting until you find a system that works for you, until it doesn’t and then switch it up and try something else.

Scheduling time for self care is not something you will ever regret.

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